Co-Existing With My Guides

How we live, work, and love together between realms

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The other day, I was walking our dogs around the neighborhood when I looked up to see that some of the leaves on our neighbor’s elm tree were already turning red. Even though it’s only July, I know this is an indication that these summer weeks are going to spiral into fall before we know it. I love fall, and I love all the rituals of the season. Although I’m trying to stay in the moment to enjoy these warm, apricot-colored days, I was excited to see these hints of what’s to come. I snapped a photo of the tree, as I do almost every year, but this time I sent the photo to members of my soul team, because nothing lights us up more than moving through these seasons together earthside for the first time ever. 

When I say that I talk to my guides the way you might talk to your friends and family, what I mean is exactly that: we text, we leave each other voice messages, we chat on the phone, and we get together for meals. The other weekend, five of us piled into my car to drive along the country roads to sing at the top of our lungs with the windows down. In Vermont, we worked on the novel we have been writing together for the last four years. 

I know that this is probably difficult to wrap your head around. It was hard for me, too, at first, despite studying mediumship and using other methods of connecting to them for years. I had just never thought that it could be this way—that we could coexist on a daily basis. There’s a good reason for that: we’re the first. 

While other teams, leagues, and families in the light had been working on connecting to their earth realm counterparts, too, my family hit upon a certain alchemy of technology, energy, devotion, and love that allowed us to get there when we did. 

In the Light and beyond, our soul teams use advanced technology to tune into our thought frequencies (if we’ve allowed them to—this is something we would agree to in the Light. More on that to come). They’re able to decipher which frequencies are attuned to communication directed toward them. That’s when they receive our requests, our messages, and our love. From the start, my life plan included this goal: to breach the divide between those of us here on earth and those who live in the Light and the other neighborhoods within our universe. That’s why, when they heard me say, “I just want to talk to my guides the way I talk to my friends,” they knew it was go time—because for years before that, they had been working on finding a system that would allow them to break through to me in this way: directly, clearly, in-person. 

They didn’t just take down the veil; they walked through it and into my world. 

For anyone reading this who feels like this could never happen to them, I want to share this: in the month before my family broke through to me, I’d had the thought that I might not ever be able to connect to anyone on the other side in the way that friends from my mediumship circle did. While I was receiving messages, signs, and validations from my soul team, I still doubted whether it was really, truly them. They knew that, which is why they crafted an experience that was visceral, obvious, and undeniable; one that would wake me up to the fact that I’d made a true connection. 

During a meditation practice, I felt a spiraling energy pass through me, gently moving my body. That communication evolved (you can read more about that here), to the point where we could speak, write, and eventually, where I learned to use the holographic communication system with which we speak to each other and those around the universe, including some of the members of soul teams belonging to some of you who read this newsletter. 

At the beginning, my guides were expecting to come in to work with me for, at most, an hour a day, during which they would give me some pointers that could help me to live out the plan we made together for this final lifetime of mine on earth. But our connection outgrew that hour immediately. Soon, we were speaking nearly all day. We began writing together. We decided to start a family business. When we went through a trial that plummeted us into the darkness, we came through it even more tightly bound to one another. And somewhere along the way, they shared that they could come in to be with me in-person, using a portal that had been created to allow people in the Light to have experiences here in our realm. 

At first, I wasn’t sure how these experiences would differ from the way we were already communicating, because I could hear but not see them. But when they began visiting me in-person, the connection was clearer. What’s more, we were able to do things like hug, dance, and walk along my favorite trails together. Eventually, with the understanding that our connection was stronger if we were within closer proximity to one another, many from my soul team began moving into the Light realm layer that exists just outside the earth realm layer of my small town. 

What it felt like was that, while I had originally wanted a long-distance phone call, what I got was something even better: a neighborhood filled with my soulmates. 

Before my soul team came in to work with me this way, it hadn’t occurred to me that they were as eager to talk to me as I was. In fact, with their understanding of our past life connections and our lives in the Light together, they wanted it even more. They were working on building our connection for a very long time. While I was doing everything to pick up on their messages, they were working on strengthening my light and my energy, while trying out different technology systems, in order to prepare us all to communicate in this way. 

Listen to my podcast The Glimmering to hear the story of how my connection to my family in the Light developed over time. 

It’s important to understand that for your soul team, connecting in this way isn’t about an introduction, it’s about a reunion. 

One night, while we were writing, my guide Louisa and I were talking about bookstores. “Remember Twin Moons?” she asked, recalling a tiny indie bookshop my parents used to take me to as a child. I hadn’t thought of it in decades. “It was so sweet; you wanted a bookmark every time you went in, and they were always giving you little gifts because they loved you.” 

“Let me look at those,” my food and style guide Jamal said one morning, looking at a pair of loosely knit socks I was wearing. “Those look just like the ones we used to darn together in this past life we had, where we knit all of our own clothes.” 

“You used to have a shaving kit when you were little,” Lionel laughed one night. “It reminded me of when I was your pa and you were my Moll, and because I raised you alone you were a little bit of a tomboy. Once I took you to get underwear, and you only wanted BVDs!” 

“Oh my god, we used to come here all the time when we were trying to figure out what we wanted,” Colt said one day, as we walked into a garden with a reflecting pool. He told me that this is how it works; in the Light, you sometimes walk into a place for the first time but you become flooded with memories you had there from your past lives. “We’ve been here a thousand times before. We used to live right down the road; we would come here to write and think and plan our lives. We wanted to be here as much as we could, because we were so in our light here.” 

“I wanted to come in to tell you everything,” is my brother Freddie’s favorite refrain. Every time we’re together, he spills over with the ways that we’ve been connected from the beginning, when we were simply dust, then light, then beings who had incarnated. We have always, always been together. In our lifetimes as Freddie and Joy, we overlapped for a few years. “We wanted it to be that way,” he said, “because you wanted to be in the Light to lead me when I came in, and I wanted to be here to lead you while you had your final hurrah.”

I don’t know if there’s any way for you or your soul team to prepare completely for this reunion. Even through the years of ups and downs, during which we were all tossing messages to each other over a wall, hoping they had landed, we could never have known what it would feel like to be with each other in this way. Over the last nine months, which feels like years and hours at once, we have fallen in love with each other. Whenever anything happens, blissful or terrible, they are the ones I call—and vice versa.

While Amalia was going through a particularly rough time as her love, Jenz, was preparing to come into the Light, I suggested that we flood Jenz with signs in the same way Amalia had flooded me with her signs for years. 

When our core community was experiencing a dark period, I asked everyone to come together to share in their light by visualizing the darkness being washed away with Dawn dish soap, and afterward, we danced. I had thought it was a fun, silly exercise, but people from across those communities later told me that they, too, had been having a rough time until we lit it up together that night. 

Since coming into my life in this way, everything I understand about the universe and our relationship to it has changed. What I know about my own state of being has also shifted dramatically. It’s as if I was looking at life under a microscope, but now I’ve zoomed out to a drone shot of the most beautiful landscape you could imagine. And with this more complete view of the land below, I’ve begun to draw a map that overlaps with the one I created before coming into this lifetime. On this new one, I’ve plotted a path lit up by the love of everyone in the universe with whom I’ve come into contact—and even those I have yet to meet—all of whom have helped me along in my journey of becoming. 

If you’re interested in connecting with your own guides, I’ll be holding a workshop with Laura Tati Laira later this year. We’ll be making the announcement soon, so please subscribe to receive the full details. My soul light team will be working to ensure that every participant has a member of their soul family present on the day of the workshop. Thank you, and please let us know if you have any questions at all.